Take a Chance on Life & Make it Count

Take chances…

Tell the truth…

Date someone totally wrong for you…Twice…

Say no…

Spend all your cash…

Fall in love…

Get to know someone random…

BE RANDOM…

Say “I love you”…

Trust even when it scares you…

Sing out loud…

Let someone know how much they mean to you…

Laugh at a stupid joke…

Cry…

Get revenge now and then…

Apologize…

Tell a jerk what you think of them…

Let someone know what they are missing…

Share your inner thoughts…

Occasionally give in to your secret urges…

Take a chance on someone…

Try new looks…

Take the road less traveled…

Don’t take yourself so seriously all the time…

Tell someone you miss them…

Be mysterious…

NEVER settle for less than you deserve or want…

And always,

 

LIVE LIFE!!

 

The ability or will to live outside our natural comfort zone is something that most people will never think of doing, much less attempt.  I’m not talking about abandoning all sense of responsibility or duty in day to day life.  Unfortunately,  that does seem to be a growing trait more and more people seem to be taking on in our society today.  Not accepting responsibility for their actions or not being prepared for consequences is something that a lot of my generation seems to be embracing themselves and then passing on to our children.  It’s much easier to shift blame or just ignore the facts of what our actions or words can cause. 

Is everyone this way?  No, thank goodness…there are still a majority of people that realize you have to be accountable and take a stand for what you truly believe in and let your life reflect those beliefs…and if things don’t work out the way you thought they would or should, take the consequences with grace and style…and move on.

HOWEVER, I have come to realize over time that there also has to be a balance, or rather there SHOULD be a balance in your life, that enables you to fulfill the duties and tasks you need to accomplish while at the same time always you not neglect the needs of your soul or the things that can make you happy.  The things that might take you outside that comfort zone a lot of us seem to fall into and never leave.

Is finding that balance an easy thing to do?  NO…it’s something that can and probably will cause that butterflies in your stomach feeling, sweaty palms and it’s pretty much guaranteed you will miss sleep while trying to find yourself.  Is it something necessary to live life to it’s fullest so that you can one day look back at your life and truly have no regrets?  No regrets for always having done what was always expected of you rather than what would have made you happy (even now and then)?

ABSOLUTELY!!! 

I see examples of so many bitter unhappy people merely walking through their lives these days.

There are those that are dissatisfied with their lives or standing in society.  The ones that are unhappy with their own choices and instead want to blame others rather than themselves when life doesn’t work out the way they planned.  They end up feeling alone or stupid because of decisions they have freely made.   It almost seems they take comfort in their misery and are almost anxious to wallow in their discomfort rather than take steps to improve the things making them miserable.

Next there are those that believe by taking care of everyone around them at the expense of themselves or their own happiness,  that they somehow are doing the right thing.  Instead, they end up cheating everyone around them, including themselves.  They are robbing those they love of ever knowing the true person living within. The people that will freely take from them without interest or care for the sacrifices being made are being done no favors.  The person that lives their life through the happiness of others is in essence wasting a huge part of themselves and their potential, often without anyone even noticing or caring.

Then there are some, and in my opinion, the worst…those that are intent on thinking themselves above it all and better than their fellow man, even though a lot of their own actions are purely hypocritical and the same or worse than those they try to belittle.  In the end, they only end up making themselves look foolish in the process and rarely see it.  I have found that I have no patience or sympathy for anyone that makes the choice to be vindictive, mean spirited or judgemental toward others instead of putting responsibility on themselves or living their own lives.  I do however, pity those stuck in that rut of unhappiness or deceit, and for the people that have to live with or interact with them over and over again.  The masks they think they wear so carefully are often instead transparent to everyone around them.

I know I can’t change all of the wrongs in the world by myself or always worry about what I cannot change in others.  I don’t plan to look back on my life one day and lament the fact that I missed out on things I should have taken a chance on. The things that at the time might have seemed crazy or scary or stupid…something not in my “comfort zone”. 

Over the last few years I have embraced this philosophy.  In doing so, at times the decisions I’ve made have turned out to be terrific ones where I’ve grown, learned and purely enjoyed.  At times, as will happen, some choices were ones in the end I’d have rather not made, but I still learned from those choices as well.  It turns out even tough lessons are valuable ones if you let them be. 

I plan to keep living life and taking chances outside what is merely expected of me.  In the process I will try to never purposely do harm to others or shirk responsibilities that are all important in life.  By the same token however, I also never plan to quit growing or experiencing the flavors and colors of life, or for that matter shrink away from confrontations if they are warranted.  I will not sacrifice my full potential or happiness out of fear or by trying to take care of everyone else but myself in a misguided attempt to be selfless or a martyr.

I will try to always take chances when I can, even when I’m uncertain of the outcome.  This is what keeps us vital and young and moving ahead.  It keeps us from becoming stagnant, unhappy or bitter because of missed opportunities or from blaming others for what we decide to do or not do with our lives.  It keeps us from having  disappointment in how our lives turn out.

So I’m living my life as I started this post, continuing to move forward with my eyes wide open, head held high and my mind open to what is to come, even in these uncertain times. 

Living your life well IS truly the best “revenge” against disappointment or being stuck in a rut with no chance of escape.  It’s not comfortable at times to believe in yourself, but life will certainly never be dull!

 

~Live well, laugh often, love passionately~

Talk Dirty to Me..In The New Old Fashioned Way

On second thought, never mind.

 

When did we start the slide down the slippery (no pun intended) slope to become such a world of boringly predictable people?

 

The “shock” value of things a few years ago from those acting outside the norm such as Howard Stern, has disintegrated too rapidly in the past few years into a population (especially online) that has lost all sense of imagination in favor of reverting back to teenage adolescent behavior and sexual immaturity in the belief that this is the “new” modern way of interacting with each other. What the heck, who needs silly things like manners and anticipation when you can have instant promiscuity and lewd comments substituted for actual conversation. It saves SO much time, right?!? (and produces such a profoundly lasting result, just take a gander at the divorce rate these days)

 

When did it become so easy to BE easy?

 

Call me silly, but give me good old-fashioned romance, pursuit and seduction anytime over this watered-down pale ridiculous version of what passes for the mating ritual dance these days..or as I refer to it, total BS so deep you need to be in a full length body condom just to say hello, never mind shaking hands or other body parts with anyone.

 

Where, oh where have all the creative people gone?

 

Where are the people that possess the ability to craft subtle subliminal play and innuendo with their words?

 

What has happened to the ART of foreplay and seduction?

 

Does anyone even KNOW what a double entrendre IS anymore?

 

I think not.

 

The golden years of people that could make magic with their words…the ones that could, with a single glance or turn of a phrase, have you on the edge of your seat with longing..the concept of always leave them wanting more…is no more it seems. To me, the loss of such a vital part of interpersonal relationships and the death of all imagination is a crying shame. I, for one…will continue to hold fast to the “old” ways. These new “techniques” leave me cold. Trust me, I am NOT in any stretch of the imagination ever what could be considered frigid or even tepid..but throw a predictable or lewd line at me when I don’t know you, it’s the kiss of death and the end of my Southern sense of decorum and manners (bless your heart).

 

Cases in point..I decided to do a little research..all in the name of science of course and just scratched the surface (and trust me, I scratched NOTHING else, cross my heart!! *wink*) of what passes for modern day Ron Jeremy and Jenna Jameson wannabes wandering through the halls of cyberspace. This is some of what I found..

 

Search for “69” on some social websites and you cum up with 12,641 offerings from the creatively unchallenged.

Blasts aplenty of course with subtle obviously subliminal messages such as…

 

“69 69 69 69 is the best way.. what do u think?” (from a lovely girl apparently considering a calling as a nun…ummm, I guess it’s a female from the nickname that involves the word pink, but alas, the profile is mostly blank)

Or the oh so subtle nicknames such as P*ssy Licker 69 and Queen_69_B*tch_69 that leave SO much to the imagination as to the quality of their character.  Just makes you want to run right out and propose to them, doesn’t it?      

 

Or blogs like this from Sebastian…his blast and blog – “Hi iam Sebastian …………….. XXxxx I luv 69, so if you wanna sit on my face, contact me. Kisses, where ever you like!! …”

 

Or this…

 

Hi,

Why would we complicate our lifes so much if we just look for some good sex, just get but naked and f*ck tonight. If you are interested in just good hot wet and warm sex just let me know. Just make love not war.!!!!

(Oh yes, I can bet this big boy is flooded with offers!!)

 

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The search for the word “c*nt” garnered less entries (1672), but far more explicit hard-core no-holds barred advertisement for non-strings physical ummm..interactions.

 

A few shining examples…

 

This blast was from someone with the nickname “OMG I’m a HO HO” (Hmmm…isn’t a “ho ho” a chocolate cake made by Hostess and cream filled…oh, nevermind..guess it could be loosely descriptive for this lovely lady too..loose being the operative word)

Her blast – “Bad Girl Crazy Sh*t whining already fucking gringo c*nt C.U.N.T could stand for c u next time Licking sucking and f*cking 5 inch penis dripping juicy fat c*nts.” (which I’m SURE is meant in the nicest good girl kinda way)

 

Someone with the plain jane nickname of just “C*nt” and a profile picture of her lovely tongue blasted this…. “my name is c*nt. i am totally submissive and fully compliant. my back door has been opened and stretched. i am the property of Master Stephen. i am His slave.. i am His c*nt.” (That Master Stephen is one lucky dude, a compliant stretched out woman that’s ALL his!!!)

Now lest I be accused of being sexist, a query into the word “c*ck” found 14,439 offerings (unless I miss my guess, literal offerings). Now if I wanted to be cynical, I “could” say that men lack a bit more tact and imagination than women just from the sheer numbers returned. Of course, we all know that I have little knowledge of sarcasm or cynicism. I am just a mere female after all!!

In the interest of fairness..I will point out however, that I also observed a fair number of entries with this lovely term were from women extolling the virtues of this particular body appendage as well as singing (or would that be humming) the praises of quantity (in size and number) over quality. It seems that to some, any ole’ thing will do as long as the person it’s attached to shows the proper amount of admiration and groveling to the potential F*ckmate/F*ckee.

 

This search included such appealing sorts as Mr. “Suck_n_Gum_u” who graphically explains that he cannot maintain or obtain an erection due to blood pressure issues, BUT will take out his dentures and service anyone interested.

 

This blast stood out (pun intended) as just a little TOO desperate … “I’m a horny boy & very interested to have sex with the girls, Mature Women, Plump girls, Transexual & Shemale. i have really a big c*ck & i bet you will enjoy with this snake. ” (Can we translate this to mean to blind, crippled or crazy..breathing not really an issue?? This boy is just begging to end up having bunnies boiled in his kitchen)

 A few other “highlights” of my research…(bear in mind these were all found on ONE single social site)

“Pussy” (I’m guessing not referring to a feline)  garnered 21,037 results.

 

“Anal” was found 10,993 times.

 

“Sex” blew them all away with 250,471 offerings.

 

Okay, so you get the idea..I don’t need to keep beating a dead horse here (and I’m surely not going to be beating anything else).

 

The world has changed and it appears, so have the ways of wooing. I guess I’m going to be difficult and remain in the dark ages when it comes to basic male/female interactions. Obvious=boring. It shows a lack of incentive and basic moral fiber, not to mention a likely hood of disease.

 

I demand more. The saying of “I just don’t play hard to get, I AM hard to get” comes to mind. If so many people weren’t so afraid of being alone or if people were not in such a hurry to find “the one”, we might get back to more meaningful relationships and *gasp* find actual excitement in another person that doesn’t burn out like a roman candle in the wind, but instead weathers the test of time and intensifies.

 

We all know, or should know, that things that are REAL demand time and attention and work. These connections don’t grow on trees and aren’t a dime a dozen…nothing good cums easy and if it does, it wasn’t worth the trouble, even minimal trouble, to attain it.

 

Here’s an idea. 

 

Dare to be interesting.

 

(I won’t even get into the fact that as a teacher, the lack of grammar, spelling and punctuation from so-called adults make me absolutely wild…and not in the way I’m sure most intended.  That’s a subject for a later rant.)